WHAT TYPE OF CHARACTER ARE YOU HANGING OUT WITH?

Part five:

You don’t have to take my word based on any thing I've posted. It happened to me and I take the necessary precautions to ensure to the best of my ability that it doesn’t happen again.    Light bulb!

For part five of the saga, I will be providing you with real live stories and websites that you can utilize to forearm yourself and to protect your teens if you choose to forearm them.

There are people out there that think that the world is getting better; people that choose to maintain a positive outlook on life, and give all people the benefit of the doubt.

 Personally, I do think that people are growing more spiritually and have high hopes of the world changing for the better. There are people that are doing everything that they can to ensure that hope, but let’s also be real; while doing everything that we can to help bring about change and to grow spiritually individually, not everyone shares those same hopes; not everyone is on the same spiritual path that people with hope are. There are “beings” in this world that have motives and intentions on hurting others simply because someone hurt them and because being able to devour, control and possess the innocent or inexperienced is a form of power and control for the culprit.

Please – don’t be misguided by the philosophies of “oneness”, “togetherness”, “Consciousness” and the like; don’t allow those concepts to cloud your judgment nor your children’s.   Be realistic – we live in a world that teaches lessons and everyone isn’t coming your way to bless you. Pass the test and lessons that come your way by being empowered with knowledge!!

So let’s move on to the profiles.

I’ll provide a website(s) so you can read for yourself!

The Sociopath

Ever meet someone incapable of giving “love”? Do you even believe that such a person exists? Do you think that it’s not possible for such a person to con you into welcoming them into your space? Light bulb!  Hope you will do the research!

http://www.exitsupportnetwork.com/artcls/socio.htm

http://www.mcafee.cc/Bin/sb.html

http://www.ehow.com/how_2337343_identify-sociopathic-behavior.html

http://www.experienceproject.com/groups/Dated-A-Sociopath/3793

The Narcissistic

Are these personality types ever sorry for what they do? Click on the link and see for yourself!

http://nightvisionforwomen.com/narcissist.aspx

http://www.nvo.com/psych_help/narcissisticpersonalitydisorder

http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/articles/narcissism-understood.htm

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Is_the_narcissist_ever_sorry_and_does_he_ever_apologize

The Psychopath

Only happens in the moves, right?  I’m afraid not folks. And that’s very scary.

http://www.onlineschools.org/what-is/what-is-the-difference-between-a-psychopath-and-a-sociopath

http://www.cassiopaea.com/cassiopaea/psychopath.htm

http://masksofsanity.blogspot.com (this is a great blog to follow)

         So there you have it folks; these are just a few of the personality types that you could welcome into you space without even knowing that they are “wolves in sheep’s clothing” until you're right at the door of hell.

         I really think this blog will be of great benefit to teens 16 and up and all adults! It is very informative and then some! http://masksofsanity.blogspot.com

I hope my blog “What Type of Character Are You Hanging Out With?” has been helpful- for that was my main intent!

You can read excerpts from my book   -“What Type of Character

Are You Hanging Out With?” on the following site:

http://bookstore.xlibris.com

Just put in the title of the book or my name: Betty Alark

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What Type of Character Are You Hanging Out With?



By Betty Alark

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WHAT TYPE OF CHARACTER ARE YOU HANGING OUT WITH?

Glad you could make it back! Always a pleasure to have you here!

Part four!

Talk about a school of hard knocks; boy I tell you life will teach you a thing or two!

So did you feast on the food for thought in the last chapter? I left off talking about “you” writing your own script to be played back to “you” by the character that you allowed into your space – remember?

It became as apparent as a glass window to me that the “wolf in sheep’s clothing” that had entered my space had definitely gotten my number; and played “my” open book back to me, in a most inconspicuous manner; the question is why didn’t I see the inconspicuous; shouldn’t it have been obvious to me?

 There was no “light bulb” that went off; no warning signs to alert me; this wolf appeared to be a sheep and acted out like one, until I was drawn into its den; my emotions stroked so, I would feel comfortable living there; then the sheep’s clothing started peeling off layer by layer; very gradual manifestation of the stranger that really was lurking in my space.

So why didn’t I recognize the signs; why didn’t a light bulb go off?

Come in closer, here’s the scoop:

I was fresh into college; as far as life was concerned it was difficult to tell which end was up. I met a few gents in passing and had a few episodes of puppy love; but never had I met a master of intrigue and disguise. Let me tell you – there is no way that a “light bulb” not even a 100 watt “light bulb” could have out shone this character’s charm and intrigue; the inexperienced sheep had meet a very experienced wolf.

I sometimes sit back and say to myself , ‘why couldn’t someone have informed me in advance of the fact that, real live monsters like “wolves in sheep’s clothing” existed in the world’; was I suppose to believe the horror shows that I saw on television? I didn’t know that making the acquaintance of a monster or horror creature would actually be likelihood along life’s path; ‘why couldn’t someone have given me   a detailed description of a “wolf in sheep’s clothing’s” profile?’

 If my parent’s could have informed me of a few red flags to look for, or something; maybe I could have recognized such a character coming my way and ran in the other direction. No, I don’t blame my parents for the hell that I went through, I’m just making a point; point being that, being forewarned could have saved my hide from being drug through the mud.

Actually, knowing what I know today it may not have helped even if my parents had informed me; I’m telling you, it’s not easy recognizing a “wolf in sheep’s clothing” or any monster out there that hides behind a disguise; trust me - they know the difference between a sheep and themselves; and they know all the tricks of the trade to draw you in and just the right time to leap.

A master of disguise and intrigue shines like a brilliant light; they attract the gullible; the curious; the inexperienced; the open books; and those that like to be given back the scripts that they write. Masters of intrigue and disguise are highly intelligent “beings” and their motive and intentions are nothing more than to prey upon the innocent.

“Innocence” is a quality that stands out; there was a time that I wore my heart on my sleeve and predators could see me coming. All predators don’t necessarily fall in the general category of “wolves in sheep’s clothing”; some predators are simply more experienced than others at being get over artist and can be very transparent to someone with intelligence or street smarts; there are however, personality types out there that will simply blow your mind and crush the reality that you thought was safe and had a semblance of realism.

Even though meeting a “wolf in sheep’s clothing” is an eye opener- I wouldn’t wish the experience of meeting one on anyone; the trauma changes your entire life. The reality of those types of “beings” living in the world right beside you; on face book; chat cites, etc. leaves you with emotions of skepticism; looking over your shoulder; a watchful person for the rest of your life; you don’t take chances; risk – at least not without doing your research and really finding out about the character that you are considering welcoming into your space.

Taking the time to learn the signs; the red flags that alert you to a “wolf in sheep’s clothing” personality type, could save your life. Being informed isn’t one hundred percent seal proof however; you will be surprised at what your brain will alert you to once you have armed it with ammunition to defend you! The mind is a computer of high intelligence and once you arm it with knowledge it will give back to you what you gave it; it will be your defense mechanism.

Before going to the next chapter of this saga, I’d just like to say that monsters and “wolves in sheep’s clothing” aren’t gender specific; they come in all genders, however there are so many females out there that get sucked in by male “wolves in sheep clothing” simple because of the nature of females; females are nurturing, swayed by emotions, trusting, willing, and open books; come on lady’s you know how we can be.

 In spite of the nature of females, times have changed. There’s no reason why females have to be left in the dark; stifled by emotions or play that nurturing traditional role. Light bulb!

We have all the resources that we need right at our finger tips to inform us about anything that we need to know; if we just use the tools.

 Remaining trapped in ignorance and roles of tradition are a thing of the past; do the research and teach your children how to protect themselves from monsters, predators and wolves in sheep’s clothing”; arm them with the ammunition before they venture out into the world – doing it their way.

 It’s great for our children to find their own way; however before they start the venture of doing it their way - forewarn them/empower them; arm yourself with ammunition and knowledge of the types of personalities that could be living right next door to you or lurking around in your space right now.

Poop really does stink and there really are monsters and “sheep in wolves clothing” lurking around seeking someone innocent to devour; so watch out and be on the alert; you will detect the red flags if you have done the research and when you see the red flag find the closest Exit.

Do you think males or females are more inclined to be wolves in sheep's clothing?

What Type of Character Are You Hanging Out With?

  Ah, there you are; thought I’d lost you.

  Part three!

So, getting back to where we left off. I was saying that:

 There are so many personality types lurking around in the world; some are genuinely transparent and some are deceitfully transparent - meaning their transparency is a mask. The culprit reveals to your itching ears what it knows your itching ears is eager to hear; and how does that knowingness come about – well read on!

 Getting to know a person entails revealing information about yourself to a perfect stranger; and what does that revelation generally sound like?

Well, listen in – it sort of goes like this:

 I like this, I dislike that; I want this, I need… and on and on until you’ve completely opened the book entitled, “This is who I Am” What do you think the learner of all that knowledge is going to do with  all that FYI ?

Wait – don’t answer that, instead tell me what would you do with all that FYI? You’re learning the stranger as the stranger learns you, right – so you’re perfectly capable of answering that question yourself. I’ll give you a moment.

 

So what did you come up with?

 

Here’s what I came up with:

 Knowledge is power; as a mental notebook is stored in the archives of the mind of the character that you have allowed into your space and vice versa - regarding all those intriguing idiosyncrasies; the two of you embark upon the adventure of  setting out to oblige one another’s desires? Isn’t that what people do?

 Now here’s the kicker:

 After each character endows the other with a compilation of details regarding their character, the space entered becomes a lot more familiar and the strangers that you were, decreases in distance; you settle into a comfort zone assuming that you’re getting to know one another.

I ask you?

 Just because you’ve been charmed to feel comfortable by receiving what “you” requested from the character existing in your space, does that mean that you “know” the character lurking in your space or does it mean that the character lurking in your space “knows you” - and has now – got your number? Think about it, if you’re always receiving what you requested from someone (all those details you provided) aren’t you going to come to appreciate the giver and think that person to be wonderful?

 However, in reality aren’t you liking yourself– isn’t that what the character that’s obliging you is given back to you– your own open book; isn’t the character acting out and playing the part that you assigned to it; didn’t you create the script? Light bulb! So in reality – you’re watching “your” script being played back to you; your hearing what your itching ears wanted to hear and being obliged in the manner that “you” requested.

Does this drama sound all too far fetched or negative to you?

 I mean you’re probably saying come on - everybody’s not like that; everybody isn’t out to get you nor does everyone have ill gotten motives and intentions.

Well my fellow hearers – you’ve heard that the entire world is a stage and that every soul plays a part in it, haven’t you?  Think not that everyone is playing the same part; think not, that everyone’s motives and intentions are the same or you shall be the fool of the “wolf in sheep's clothing” delight.  Light bulb!

 I’m going to stop here and let you feast on what you’ve heard thus far. I really want to thank you for standing still long enough to hear from my perspective. The saga will continue and I hope you will come back to hear and consider the continuation of   - What Type of Character Are You Hanging Out With?

Love to hear what you think thus far!

Stay tuned in for part four!

WHAT TYPE OF CHARACTER ARE YOU HANGING OUT WITH?

PART TWO – Welcome back!

I use to be one of those naive characters; a sheep that took people that entered my space at face value; never for a moment doubting that there was a motive involved other than – the person liked what they saw and had an earnest, sincere interest in getting to know me.

I soon learned that I was seen as a glass house that attracted on- lookers that thought it would be  fun to throw stones at the fragile beams that supported my house of innocence.  God knows, my house  got hit many times until it came tumbling down; then my eyes were opened.     Light bulb!    

Just to set the record straight:

 My experience as a “glass house” isn’t an indication etched in stone that incriminates every character that enters a person’s space; there are genuine characters in the world whose intentions and motives are sincere; my point is, that to walk around in the world thinking that everyone that desires to enter your space possesses the character of a genuine nature, leaves you open for a rude awakening.

There are so many personality types lurking around in the world; some are genuinely transparent and some are deceitfully transparent - meaning their transparency is a mask. The culprit reveals to “your” itching ears what it knows “your” itching ears are eager to hear.

Let me take a moment to express how it felt when the character that I allowed to enter my space, whom I assumed had a “sheep” like nature, turned out to be a “sheep in wolves clothing” and what the effect of that revelation had on me.

  While I’m at it I might add that while out there doing it my way, nowhere in my memory banks did I have a recollection of mommy or daddy telling me about “wolves in sheep’s clothing”. There’s a vague memory about a shinning knight on a white horse coming to rescue me someday and us living happily ever after; talk about a fairy tale, that victory hasn’t shown up in reality yet.     Light Bulb!

When the reality hit me - that I had been baited by a “wolf in sheep’s clothing” and realizing that time shared with that character had no more been genuine than a man in the moon, I was traumatized; nothing in life had prepared my psyche for what had  been encountered. Nope - the fantasy world that I grew up in - thinking that the nature of all people was that of a “sheep” had now become a shattered illusion. It took many years for the trauma to wear off and even then, I was left with a scarred heart and no secure reference of the type of “characters” that roamed this world.

The experience of encountering a “wolf in sheep’s clothing” was an eye opener for me – it opened my eyes to the real reality of life; it taught me to be watchful and not to think that every character that I encounter should be innocently allowed into my space. The experience left me with a myriad of questions.

Such as:

Could I ever trust anyone again?  Are all people in the world this treacherous?

 I had met a monster and I was now trapped inside a disillusioned psyche. Where do I go from here?

What about you; have you ever had your psyche disillusioned. How did you recover?

 I’ll share more with you as the saga continues! Stay tuned in for part three!

WHAT TYPE OF CHARACTER ARE YOU HANGING OUT WITH?

Have you experienced thinking that you knew someone so well and then one day to your utter surprise – boom, transformation.  You found yourself asking that same person - who are you?

     The purpose of this blog is to inform and provide awareness.

     The blog also serves the purpose of gaining recognition as an author and promoting my book:

     “What Type of Character Are You Hanging Out With?” 

Let the saga begin!

     Just so you won’t become confused, throughout the saga I’ll be using words such as: sheep, wolf and wolves as metaphors. The sheep as a “character” generally can be representative of a person that is genuine, honest, naive, trusting and revealing.

     The wolf on the other hand represents a “character” that has a watchful nature; is knowledgeable of the nature of sheep; is a master of disguise and intrigue; a character that waits for the opportune moment to prey on its victim; is a predator and a perpetrator; someone that violates your most sacred trust.

PART ONE

     From birth well into the puberty years, you were endowed with the riches of the parent’s do’s and don'ts of life; oh yea, and tradition.

      By the time you were ready to venture out into the world you had long beforehand imagined and created your own venturesome philosophy -

  I'm going to do it my way!

       I don’t know about you but I've never taken the word of a poop smell- er. I had to smell it for myself and then I knew for sure that it did stink.

  Isn’t that's life? You live and learn.

  Now let me ask you a question:

     Would you agree that reading is learning and that someone sharing their experiences with you could shed light on a subject matter and maybe that light could provide you with a perspective you hadn't considered?

Ever heard the saying:  Two heads are better than one?

       One perspective plus another perspective =’s two perspectives and don't think for one second that learning didn't take place somewhere between the two.

     Don’t get me wrong - you can still live your life doing it “your way” and finding out if poop stinks on your own but do you lose anything by standing still and having a willingness to simply hear what someone else has to say?

     You don’t have to concur with what you hear nor do you have to adapt it as your own; it just might be that after you stand still long enough to listen, that you go away with something to think about; something that you hadn’t considered before.    Light bulb!

     Now that you’re standing still and I have your attention, prepare to awaken!  Let’s begin with a discussion question. I ask you to join in and participate!

     While out there doing it your way - have you ever experienced finding out that the character that you thought you were hanging out with was a sheep but in reality turned out to be a “wolf in sheep's clothing”
  

How did that transformation cause you to feel? What was the after effect?

I’ll give you some time to answer and then join me for part two!